The orgasm is venerated — definitive. For both men and women, cultural narratives tell us, the orgasm is a central experience. Not being able to have one is called a dysfunction. But what if one can have orgasms, and just chooses not to climax?
Does orgasm denial seem scary to you? It could if you don't know what it is or how does it work or the benefits of it? Luckily for you, we're going to talk about it more. You know that orgasms apart from feeling wonderful can bring you many health benefits. They can help you relieve stress, they can give your immune system a boost and they can even help you fight insomnia and did we mention that they feel amazing?! It's no wonder that we're constantly in the hunt for better, and bigger and more frequent orgasms. Why then would you, on purpose, deny yourself all that?
While an orgasm can usually be an indicator of good sex, sometimes the lack of an orgasm makes sex even better. For some, orgasm denial, or the practice of intentionally refraining for orgasm is the ultimate goal. Carol Queen , PhD and Staff Sexologist at Good Vibrations , explains everything you wanted to know about orgasm denial but were too afraid to ask:. It's generally done within the context of a dominant and submissive partner.
You've probably heard of "edging" as a way to increase the strength of your orgasms. If you repeatedly bring yourself close to climax and then abruptly cut off stimulation, the big finale—when you finally go through with it—will feel even better. But the benefits of edging go far beyond stronger orgasms. Did you know it can help you maneuver certain bedroom concerns, including premature ejaculation and erectile dysfunction?