I've never been able to reach orgasm during sex with my boyfriend. I reach orgasm alone, when I do clitoral stimulation, but my current boyfriend can't make me climax, and it's been frustrating. I've been on antidepressants for six months now. When I started the medications, I've noticed it's been harder for me to reach orgasm, let alone my boyfriend trying to turn me on.
My boyfriend can't achieve orgasm – the sex is amazing, but I'm worried
I've Never Been Able to Orgasm During Sex With My Partner. Can I?
I've recently started seeing someone on a casual basis and I'm puzzled by something I have never before encountered - he doesn't ejaculate or orgasm! He assures me this is "normal" for him and that he likes our time together. I am very open-minded but it makes me feel strange and I worry he may have some underlying issue that he should get checked out. That said, it makes the sex amazing for me. Having "lasting power" is certainly something many women value in a male sexual partner.
Advice for Men Who Have Difficulty Ejaculating (and for their partners)
But who says you have to orgasm, anyway? There are a lot of possible reasons why someone might have trouble ejaculating — some more complex than others. Sexual performance anxiety SPA is real, affecting anywhere from 9 to 25 percent of penis-having folks. SPA is kinda like stage fright.
If you can't reach orgasm with your partner, you're not alone. I spent close to 10 years being able to reach orgasm easily and reliably on my own but never having a single orgasm with a partner. I felt all of the things that most women feel when they struggle to reach orgasm during sex: I felt alone, broken, embarrassed, ashamed, frustrated, and hopeless.